Whether it’s concerns about compatibility, maturity, or cultural norms, people often ask: What is the biblical view of age differences between spouses?
When we examine the Bible, we find that age difference in marriage is not presented as a moral or spiritual concern. In fact, Scripture rarely focuses on the ages of couples or emphasizes age as a deciding factor in godly unions. Instead, the Bible prioritizes values such as faith, character, and spiritual compatibility.
Let’s explore what Scripture says—and doesn’t say—about age differences in marriage.
Biblical Examples: Abraham and Sarah
One of the few couples in the Bible whose ages are both mentioned is Abraham and Sarah. According to Genesis 17:17, when God promised Abraham a son through Sarah, Abraham was 100 years old and Sarah was 90, indicating a 10-year age difference.
This example shows that while the Bible acknowledges their age gap, it does not present it as problematic or spiritually inappropriate. Instead, the focus is on God’s covenant and the miraculous birth of Isaac.
What About Mary and Joseph?
Some traditions suggest that Joseph may have been older than Mary, but once again, the Bible does not give specific ages. In the Gospels, the emphasis is placed on Joseph’s righteousness and his obedience to God’s instructions (see Matthew 1:19–24), not on any age disparity.
Since Scripture is silent on their respective ages, making assumptions about age gaps between Mary and Joseph falls into the realm of extra-biblical speculation.
Is Age Difference Important in Christian Marriage?
While the Bible does not treat age differences as a spiritual or moral concern, it does provide clear principles for godly relationships. These include:
Thus, age is not a biblical deal-breaker. While significant age differences may introduce practical challenges, such as differences in life stage or energy levels, they are not viewed in Scripture as disqualifying for a Christ-centered marriage.
Modern Considerations for Age Differences
In today’s world, a noticeable age gap between partners—especially in the case of a younger woman and an older man—may prompt social scrutiny. However, it’s important to distinguish between cultural opinions and biblical truth.
While a large age gap (e.g., between a teenager and someone significantly older) could raise ethical or legal concerns and should always be approached with caution, age differences between consenting adults are not morally prohibited in Scripture.
Many mature Christian couples with a decade or more between them have built successful, God-honoring marriages, grounded in mutual respect and shared faith.
What Should Christians Prioritize in Choosing a Spouse?
Rather than focusing on numerical age, believers are encouraged to consider deeper questions:
- Is this person spiritually mature and growing in Christ?
- Do we share a common vision for family, faith, and service?
- Do we treat each other with respect, humility, and love?
- Are we both entering the relationship for honorable and God-honoring reasons?
As long as both individuals are legal adults and enter into marriage willingly, an age difference becomes secondary to these core biblical values.
